Guys, I'm really disappointed with all this.
I really thought that you two could come to an amicable settlement. I had a hunch that the whole idea of "The Usual Suspects" would suffer because of a monstrous clash of personalities, but I really didn't think it would resolve (devolve) like this.
Eric and Jake, your public sparring and sniping went too far, and the pettiness of the last few comments of the "Jake" post truly bear this out.
The sharp comments I have for you are this:
Eric - you need to be far more open about how you feel and why. Please! To the untrained observer this all looks like you are just harboring a grudge. Your silence on things is a bit too enigmatic. Chicks may dig it, but being a leader... no.
Jake - you need to have more presence of mind and sensitivity to others. That's a general, overall observation. While your snarkiness and (occasionally) abrasive wit aren't going to change - you should learn to modulate it for the circumstance. Please!
There. None of that should be news to either of you.
..........
There have been a lot of emails, text messages and blog posts these last few days.
Let's all just chill for a while.
Right now, 11pm on Tuesday - I'm on the fence about Indy. I'm a little too upset by all this.
I will - however - be at the diner on Cadman Plaza on Thursday regardless if anyone wants to talk.
PS - I'm not above criticism by any stretch.
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Tom's already said pretty much what I was going to write when I sat down at the computer. Jake, Eric, I think you've both got reason to be angry but you're both being more than a little immature about it.
Eric, I agree with a lot of your assessments of Jake's riding and other behavior, but he is quite right that you have not been constructive/positive in your responses. Instead, you wait until you're ready to explode before you'll say anything. As Tom said, this is not leaderlike, whether or not you really want to be a leader.
Jake, I don't like the way you behave toward the group. You come off as irresponsible and disrespectful to all of us and to anyone else we're riding with. I'm sorry if I don't seem any more positive or constructive than Eric, and I'm sorry that I haven't told you this before. I'm still getting my bearings as a part of this group and it's not easy for me to criticise someone who's been around longer than me.
I don't want to force anyone out of this group. We're all here by our own choice, and we're not big enough for anyone to say who should and shouldn't ride with us.
However, Jake, I need you to be more on top of your shit. The rest of us get to Gorilla at or before the meet-up time, ready to go. Pretty much every time. Then we wait for you to call or text and let us know how late you are going to be. Pretty much every time. I've gotten to expect it, and I'm tired of it.
If you are willing to be reliable for a change, then I will be happy to have you around on a ride. As it is, it's hard for me to enjoy what should be a relaxing, stress-free day out with my friends.
As Tom said, I'm sure there are things that I do that upset/annoy/bother you all, and I hope that you'll tell me what they are before it gets to this point of ridiculousness. If you have anything in mind now, you can let me know tomorrow at the diner :)
Diz
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